tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601819916630680133.post2266910206913610918..comments2024-01-23T23:07:00.959-08:00Comments on GRACEful Retirement: The Finances of FriendshipGrace.http://www.blogger.com/profile/03557395027685855901noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601819916630680133.post-64364777669401534482009-05-08T10:11:00.000-07:002009-05-08T10:11:00.000-07:00Nice to have you here, Hattie.Nice to have you here, Hattie.Grace.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03557395027685855901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601819916630680133.post-84483214911173385562009-05-08T10:01:00.000-07:002009-05-08T10:01:00.000-07:00You are giving me some good advice. We have friend...You are giving me some good advice. We have friends who live well but are in fact not well off, both being teachers. It is an exercise in tact for us to stay friends, and your tips really help. <br />I've got you bookmarked and will come by often.Hattiehttp://hattie.typepad.com/hatties_web/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601819916630680133.post-22017710338275842912009-04-08T07:37:00.000-07:002009-04-08T07:37:00.000-07:00Interesting post again! I'm planning a post about ...Interesting post again! I'm planning a post about how my BK and total readjustment of my fiscal life has been difficult on me and how I interact with certain friends. One thing my BK made me realize is how "money based" some of my "friendships" were. And it made me realize how lucky I am to have certain friends, like your L that you have. You are lucky to have her in your life.Bouncing Backhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07617312829656028772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601819916630680133.post-40507239526127455512009-04-07T12:39:00.000-07:002009-04-07T12:39:00.000-07:00I hope I didn't paint the wealthy with too broad a...I hope I didn't paint the wealthy with too broad a brush, it's wrong to say they are all alike. Your friend sounds like a wonderful person, regardless of class. the co-worker who prompted my introspection comes across as snobby as well, hence my distaste for her. But she caused me to realize that most of my friends were very much like me and to question if wealth played a part in these relationships. Your relationship with L shows a conscious effort to make your economic differences unimportant. It takes an extra degree of thoughtfulness and consideration to pull that off.Miss Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15926161058644761041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5601819916630680133.post-8178874324406488182009-04-06T12:54:00.000-07:002009-04-06T12:54:00.000-07:00You and your friend are blessed because obviously ...You and your friend are blessed because obviously you respect each other. Even though I come from a wealthy family, we are still utilitarian. That's probably because my family made their money the old fashioned way: they broke their a$$ and earned it.<BR/>So, I have a problem with people who are wasteful. That usually befalls on the well-to-do. I do not like people who order up a whole lobster but only eat the tail and throw the rest away. In fact, I don't like anyone who wastes any amount of food, take one sip of a drink or leaves a half-drunk bottle of wine at the table. I dislike women who buy clothes and never wear them. I dislike men (or women) who buy cars that have absolutely no purpose in life (like corvettes-please no comments, my DH had one and it was simply a money drainer that set well, in the garage) I had neighbors who simply redid their kitchens and baths on a whim. Threw all their cabinets and plumbing in the landfills. I had friends who moved to bigger homes, never took their old furniture and just abandoned them. Said it didn't fit in the new decor.<BR/><BR/>Wasteful. Sinful. Those types of people I stay clear of. No respect.<BR/><BR/>That is why I am so glad we are all going green: reuse, recycle, reclaim. I admire people who use old barn wood for their brand 'new' floors, recycled glass for their countertops and backsplashes. Only order what they can consume. Only cook what they can eat. Harness the sun and the rain.<BR/><BR/>And fly coach.<BR/><BR/>My friend just returned from the film festival in Sarasota, Florida and was flying back home, in coach. She saw more celebrities sitting near her in coach than if she had attended the Oscar Ball in LA. Good for them!<BR/><BR/>Respect. That's what it boils down to for me. Respect for our fellow man and the environment.<BR/><BR/>Being green is the new badge of 'wealth' in my book.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com